In my opinion, having a break up with a friend is harder than ending a romantic relationship.
It hurts so much.
Again, I reflect on what was mentioned in a fantastic podcast called, “Guys we F*cked”, by comedians, Corrine Fisher and Krystyna Hutchison (this was lightly touched on a previous post). One of the women said, along the lines of, “if we go through life expecting things to not last forever, then life will be easier”.
Have our perspectives been ruined by the fairytale ending of happily ever after? Shouldn’t it be, happily ever for now?
A reason, season or lifetime?
Friendships come and they go. These unities can go through consistency and dwindle down to obscurity. And that’s okay. Like a good wine needs a moment to breathe, platonic relationships need their space. Sometimes for a moment, sometimes forever.
I do adore the friendships that pedal through cycles of recession and consistency. I believe they’re the unions that can last a lifetime. They’re based on the understanding that life paths can separate, run parallel, cross over and reconnect. The cycles purely flow with acceptance, empathy and open mindedness.
Give Arsenic the Arse
Toxic friendships. If they make you suspicious, anxious and/ or miserable, is it really worth holding onto? Does this connection add sparkle or fill you with dread? In the words of Marie Kondo, does it spark joy? To be blunt, end these friendships- quickly. It is doing a disservice to you. Toxicity conjures poison and do you really need that? Don’t let a momentous memory from the past make you hold on to something that has passed its use-by-date. It just makes you sick.
Meant to be
Soul mates should not only be limited to romantic partnerships. I believe they also extend out to our friends. Life is all about learning, growth and joy. Friendships develop because they give the opportunities to connect, forgive, reflect, empathise, sympathise and create memories. I have a solid group of soul sisters from different life phases and experiences. These wise women fulfil and engage my spirit. They are keepers in this lifetime and beyond.
Celebrate your friendships, broken up with or still together. Give gratitude for the lessons and the fun. Cheers to our mates because without them, life would be mediocre.
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It is with this post that I bid you, my reader, a temporary adieu. For the month of December, I will be planning and gaining clarity for Espresso in a Bottle, 2020. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for your likes, comments and words of encouragement.
To my guest writers, thank you for sharing your wisdom and life experience. You have each generated discussion, connection and enjoyment to readers. I hope you publish your own blogs or novels one day.
My whole purpose of this blog is to connect with people and ensure someone doesn’t feel alone in what they’re going through. The lonliest time is in the middle of the night and I hope this blog provides comfort during those hours.
Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and New Year. See you in 2020 xxx
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